In a contentious child custody case, it can be hard for a judge to separate fact from fiction. This threatens the outcome that you want for your child and could steer your child’s future in a dangerous direction. This can be especially true when parental alienation is in play, which in and of itself could be considered by some to constitute a form of child abuse. That’s why as you head into your child custody case, you have to know how to illustrate lies for the court so that it’s in the best position possible to make a determination that’s in your child’s best interests.
It can feel like your custody case is spinning out of control when the other parent makes bold lies without any evidence to support their position or when those assertions are supported by misconstrued or manipulated facts. Although it can be incredibly stressful to handle these situations, there are steps you can take to try to bring the lying to an end while ensuring that the court hears the truth. Here are some steps that you might want to consider taking in your case:
- Remaining calm: Sometimes individuals lie in custody cases to rile up the other parent. This, in turn, could get someone like you to say something that you’ll later regret when it’s used against you in court. So, even if you’re upset with the falsehoods being perpetrated by the other parent, take some time to step away from the situation, center yourself and think through your next steps before responding.
- Gathering contradictory evidence: If the lies being told are groundless, then there’s a good chance that you can find evidence to counter the other parent’s accusations. You might need to turn to witness testimony from those who know you and your child best, but education and medical records might be helpful, too.
- Keeping detailed records: If you know that the other parent struggles to tell the truth, then you need to do your best to document it. Reducing your communications with them to writing can help, especially when you ask them to confirm what you’re hearing them say. Also, though, take notes about any in-person conversations you have with them, and if you can view their social media be sure to take screenshots of anything that you think may constitute a falsity about you, your child or your parenting capabilities.
- Considering the utilization of experts: A lot of custody cases boil down to he-said, she-said situations, which can be difficult for the court to handle and can really be a gamble on your part. You might be able to tip the scales in your favor, though, if you use expert witnesses. For example, if you have your child see a mental health professional who can dispel the statements and concerns voiced by the other parent, then you can discredit the other parent’s position and support a finding that your proposed custody plan is in your child’s best interests.
Don’t let the truth slip away from your child custody case
The outcome of your child custody case can have a profound impact on your child, their wellbeing and their future. With so much at stake, you owe it to your child to build an aggressive and comprehensive case. This may require knowing how to handle complex legal issues involving parental alienation and pathological parenting, which is why it may be a good idea to seek out specialized assistance when navigating your case. By doing so, you can hopefully then rest assured that you’ve done everything possible to protect your child’s best interests.